As past posts have mentioned, the world tends to assume that women are the abused and men are the abusers. But it’s just not true. There are many men who have been or are currently in relationships in which they are the recipient of abuse. Men can and do experience the same types of abuse women experience.
This misconception of abuser-abusee roles seems to come largely from the misconstrued notion that men must be the tough, powerful, authoritative Spock while women are weak, delicate, and emotionally unstable.
In some ways, that misconception starts out innocently enough. Baby boys wear blue and play with trucks. Baby girls wear pink and play with dolls. Gender stereotypes begin at birth. However, manly men can still be abused and delicate women can still be abusers.
Women, if there is a man in your life who has struggled with a past of abuse, support him. Men, if you have abuse in your past (or present), you’re not alone. It does not make you less of a man and you have the same right a woman does in finding help and healing.
Note: I’m not trying to insinuate that a man can’t suffer abuse from a man. It happens often, whether they’re in a intimate relationship or not (read information on abuse within the LGBTQ community for more information on same gender abusive relationships). Words have power regardless of who is speaking them.
There are men suffering silently from a verbally and/or emotionally abusive partner. It looks very similar to a woman suffering the same abuse: being screamed at, being told he’s stupid, being blamed for everything, mocked, made the constant target of a jealous or controlling partner.