One of the greatest disservices to survivors of abuse is to overlook, excuse, or minimize what happened. When people become overly concerned with terms and definitions, they fail to listen to the victim and they enable the future violent actions of the abuser.
Abuse should not be determined by someone’s rote memorization of a textbook. That one word encompasses SO much. It does not look the same every time. It should not be treated as a condition. It should never be minimized. It should never be allowed to continue. It is never the victim’s fault.
If actions speak louder than words, why do we force the evidence to match a preconceived picture of what “abuse” must always be?