Roshi Fernando’s Story: “I suffered sexual abuse. I refuse to be ashamed anymore.”

Link to the guardian: "I suffered sexual abuse. I refuse to be ashamed any more."
Link to the guardian: “I suffered sexual abuse. I refuse to be ashamed any more.”

“Notably absent from the discussions about the recent abuse cases has been the voices of the victims. There is a reason for this: it is because the “victim” is seen as such. It is a difficult role: identify yourself, and you are immediately associated with a crime of a sexual nature. No one wants this placed on their head. You don’t want to be judged by something that happened to your body, sometimes decades ago…The first to come forward and be identified in the media, have given others the confidence to do so, and this is a good thing. But it is noticeable that only a very few are giving their names to the media. Amanda Berry, Michelle Knight and Gina DeJesus will always be defined as kidnap victims, rather than the women they will become: people who I hope will grow, change, become better than what happened to them, and live fulfilling lives. Sufferers of abuse are not “victims”, not even “survivors” – we’re brilliant, wonderful human beings, out there in the world, avenging ourselves on a daily basis by living well.”

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