Many teenagers (ages 12-19) face real, sometimes life-threatening violence in the form of physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and/or emotional abuse.
Did you know?
1. Research has shown maternal support (support from mum) to be the most important factor in the healing process, with counseling as no. 2.
2. More than 60% of teens who become pregnant have been victims of sexual abuse at one time.
3. If the assault occurred in a room of the victim’s home, particularly a child’s bedroom, rearrange the furniture.
4. LGBTQ teens are 3 times more likely to be in an abusive relationship.
5. On average, 1 in 5 female teens have experienced sexual violence from their dating partner. Teen dating violence is a very serious issue for males, as well.
Do you think your dating partner might be abusive? Parent, is your teen’s boyfriend/girlfriend showing signs of an abusive personality? Recognize the signs!
Does your boyfriend/girlfriend:
- act possessive?
- try to control your actions, your thoughts, how you spend your money, or who you spend time with?
- stalk you?
- frighten or intimidate you?
- insult your looks, intelligence, etc.?
- pressure you for sex?
- act out against you or others violently (pushing, hitting, grabbing)?
Answering “yes” to any of these is a bad sign. Answering “yes” to more than one of these means you are probably in an unsafe relationship. While it is very difficult to break off a relationship, even an abusive one, bear in mind that dating partners who are abusive usually become spouses and parents who are abusive.
On the other hand, are you the one being abusive? Do you think you do things that make your partner feel scared, intimidated, insulted, or hurt? Have people mentioned that you can be controlling sometimes? If so, something needs to change, for your health and for the health of your partner.
As you build relationships – intimate or otherwise – learn the warning signs of an abusive personality. As you seek to build intimacy with a dating partner, recognize the characteristics (and responsibilities) of a healthy relationship.