Women Under Siege: “Searching for Porn, Ending Up Here”

Link to " ' How To Rape a Woman': Searching for Porn, Ending up Here"
Link to “‘How To Rape a Woman’: Searching for Porn, Ending up Here”

Lauren Wolfe writes:

I took a look through the keywords people used to get here over the past two months and sorted some of the more explicit ones into a few categories. Maybe you’ll agree with these categories. Maybe you’ll think there’s more fantasy to these ideas (on behalf of men or women) than experience. What matters, I think, is that this is what is in so many people’s minds on a daily basis—these are things they can contain only to the point of seeking more information on the Internet. Barely contained ideas or impulses, basically.

Perpetrators are looking to know more about “how to rape a woman.” Fantasists want to see things I cannot even begin to imagine such as something called “Congo real extreme rape tube.” When this is what is happening to women in the Democratic Republic of Congo. Survivors are seeking stories to accompany them through a lonely evening thinking about how “I was forced to marry him, but he rapes me every night.” Maybe they are looking for fellow survivors who like them were “not allowed to cry during rape.”

I always wonder if these survivors find comfort in the stories they read here. I always wonder if the perpetrators seeking advice learn something. I always wonder if the fantasists find exactly what they are seeking when they land on this page—which is usually what they land on—which gives first-person testimonies of women who’ve been raped in conflict. Somehow, I doubt “learning” is part of the process for these last two groups of people. I think “getting off” is likely more what they experience (full article linked above).

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