Approximately 1 in 4 women are abused by their partners.
Why don’t they just leave?
There is an endless list of reasons, all valid and varied based on the situation.
Some must stay because they are financially dependent upon their partner. How will they be able to take care of themselves, their children?
Other stay because they have no where else to go. Abusers tend to isolate their victims, limit their resources and freedom.
Some stay hoping things will get better.
Others stay because they know that a woman is at greatest risk of being killed when she is escaping or just after escaping. They rightly fear violent, possibly deadly, retaliation.
Some stay because they’ve been told by people they trust that being abused is better than getting a divorce.
Others stay because they fear no one will believe them. Who will they be able to trust?
Some stay because they love their partner. Many abusers threaten to commit suicide if their victim leaves.
Domestic violence is about power and control. Leaving is not always an option.
When a woman (or man) does decide to leave, it may be a decision made with seconds to spare. Others may find help to get away. Either way, it’s wise to have a safety plan, an exit strategy. Domestic homicide is a stark reality and your safety (and possible that of your children) is a very legitimate concern.
In the links shared above and below, you will find emergency checklists – things you should have on hand in case you need to make a quick escape – and safety tips and precautions for when you leave and after you leave. Global contacts are also provided here.