Keeping Yourself Safe While in an Abusive Relationship

Link to Everyday Feminism: 3 Ways to Keep Yourself Safe When You're Not Ready to Leave Your Abusive Partner"
Link to Everyday Feminism: “3 Ways to Keep Yourself Safe When You’re Not Ready to Leave Your Abusive Partner”

You already have too many false messages saying you can’t make your own choices – from your partner’s force, coercion, or manipulation to resources that tell you that your only option is to leave your relationship now. So here’s a reminder that you have you have the wisdom to make your own choices.

This is about keeping yourself safe, not taking on being responsible for stopping the abuse or getting your abuser to change – that’s not your obligation.

As Carmen Rios wrote in her article on why survivors stay, “Leaving and staying aren’t the factors that cause abusive behavior; abusive behavior causes abusive behavior.” Give yourself credit for everything you’ve done to survive so far, and use that incredibly adaptive power of yours to build yourself more options for much-deserved self-care (Maisha Z. Johnson, linked above).

Related posts:

Why People Stay In – and Return to – Abusive Relationships

9 Domestic Violence Safety Tips

A Letter to Women in Abusive Relationships

Leaving an Abuser: “The Most Dangerous Week”

Can An Abuser Change for Good?

Domestic Violence: an Exit Plan

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